It's time to Change!!!

This is an attempt to write for BlogAdda's new  weekend contest Blue print for change .

This is a very sensitive and vast topic to write about .It’s not that we are the only country facing problems but I think as a country we are very weak. We never learn from our mistakes and the worst part is, we have been facing same problems since ages. The country is what its people are .We have been brought up learning to be submissive to situations and habits die hard.

A change in a society can be brought when you bring change in your own homes. The change in the nation can be brought only when you being a change in your own thought. We only talk about problem and never do a root cause analysis of any problem small or big. If you seriously look at all the problems you will find everything is interconnected .Let’s pick up any 5 problems to start with.

1&2) Female Foeticide and Dowry system 

                            

                                   

Think of a society where even before the girl is born people think of killing her. It is an issue. But, we

need to think what has given rise to this issue .Why people don’t want a girl child. Why even before coming into this world her fate is decided. This “why?”  Has an answer. People consider Girl as a liability. Liability 

because, they have to get her married and pay a hefty penalty to the groom for bringing up a girl child. The bride’s parents will have to reimburse all the expenses that have been incurred by groom’s parents on his education and on top of that they will have to ensure that groom lives a luxurious life at their expense because he has obliged then by marrying their daughter. Will you like to have such a liability at an age where you want to retire and live peacefully? The female foeticide is an issue which is repercussion of an evil called as Dowry system. This also throws light to credibility of those medical practitioners who are part to this crime even though law forbids it .

 Human Trafficking is one more issue that has arisen because of female foeticide. Women are bought and sold as brides where the sex ratio has drastically reduced. Now women has become a commodity which is traded .What an irony … The law is in place but still this is happening because there is a gap between setting up of law and its implementation.

The solution to female foeticide and Dowry system would be

a)      Well established and prominent medical practitioners and doctors should be punished for sex determination and female feticide so that there is fear of law among the doctors .They should be punished and their license should be cancelled.

b)      Change in mindset of Gen next:  Gen next should be conscious enough to question our parents for any such practice during our marriage. Being obedient doesn’t mean that we should support wrong. I was very happy to hear a response from one of my colleague who recently got married .He said we have convinced our parents to keep our marriage very simple and we have invited our close relatives and have thrown a small lunch for closed group of family and friends because there is no pointing wasting so much of hard earned money instead we can use that for our living. I was happy to hear such a response from a youngster.

c)       The women should be strong enough to raise a voice against such practice. Because giving and taking dowry both is crime .There is no limit to greed .Once you surrender you are trapped.You should never get into a relationship which is based on greed. Say “NO TO DOWRY”

d)      We can constantly increase awareness by campaigns and rallies and posters .As Nitish government has done in Bihar Girl’s education should be made free, they should get free school uniform, Bicycles to commute and a fixed amount of  money should be deposited for  Girl child’s higher education. There should be free trainings available which could empower women to start their own small scale industries.

           3) Domestic Violence: .

  

I have very close relative of mine who was abused for some 15 yearsContinuously after which she had to run away with her two children. The torcher had begun from very initial days of marriage. Her husband used to lock her for some 10-12 hours and go to office. She was just 19 at that time. If some days he used to find her standing on window he used to physically abuse her. She had a long beautiful hair .We used to always envy her hair. One day that maniac had cut all her hair saying that now she could not woo any other men. This is so sad .The women leaves everything behind after marriage with so many dreams in her eyes gets to bear all these things. Since from the day the daughter is born she is conditioned to think that girls are paraya dhan. Once married they leave their house and no matter what they should adjust in their marriages .Just to keep her parents happy and because of social obligation women  silently accept all the sufferings and torcher that are bestowed upon her by her better half..Around 70% of women in India are victims to Domestic violence .One more reason the evil which has been listed above, “The dowry System”.

Solution to this would be :

a)  The family plays a strong role in building  up a healthy society. As a parent we have a responsibility to condition our kids to respect every person. Child learns what he sees .Males who see their mother being respected will always grow up as a human being who respects his wife because this is what he has seen as a child. Child should be taught to behave properly with everyone be it a maid or a security or any house help after all they are just doing their duties .if the learn to respect people now they will respect them for their entire life.

b)     As a part of this society we should be vigilant enough of our neighbor hood if we feel something is going wrong somewhere we need to raise an alarm at least inform the police.

c)  Every woman should be self dependent. They should be skilled enough to always support themselves in any crisis. Because in most of the cases women bear this because they fear the hardship that their children will have to go through when she separates from her husband

d)  Along with their should be a strict law against Domestic violence .Police should be sensitive enough to treat domestic violence as seriously as other crimes. There should be a special wing  for tackling such cases.

e)   Hospitals should establish a crisis support cell that should work along with NGO to provide medical help to such victims.

    

     4) Child Sexual Abuse: 

   Child sexual abuse is reality that we are unaware of.90% of the abusers is trusted people of family. It‘s just not a violence but it’s an attack to the existence of the person and it is more heinous when it is done to child who doesn’t even know what is physical intimacy.

a)      The solution to this would be that we need to hear our kids . We need to build up a rapport  

With our kids so that they are fearless to share their joys and sorrows. We need to build a trust so  that they know that if they say something they will be believed.

b)      We should be courageous enough to confront anyone no matter how close he is in relationship. Nothing can be more important than your child .You have given birth to him /her and it your sole responsibility to ensure the safety of the child.

c)       Children should be taught at a very early age to when to raise an alarm .I was shocked to see at one of my friend’s pace her 5 years daughter was playing  in her uncle’s lap  he was constantly spanking her and squeezing her bums .She was feeling uncomfortable but she didn’t know was it wrong or not. We need to educate our kids from early ages about the advances which are wrong.

d)      There should be a strict law against child abuse.The legislation should be established to protect the right of children.society,government and communities need to complement each other and work hand in hand to create a safe children friendly environment.

These were few social issues .Let’s talk about environmental issues. 

5) Carbon footprint: 

      It is nothing but total amount of Green House gas emission caused by an organization, event, product and person. Have you felt there has been a drastic climate change since last few years .Even a city Bangalore is no more a pensioner’s paradise. The  climate has gone for a toss.This is all because of greed of humanity to demand more from the Earth than it can provide.

a) The most common solution to reduce carbon footprint caused by human is to follow 3 R’s Reduce, Reuse and Recycle. In manufacturing this can be done by recycling the packing materials, by selling the obsolete inventory of one industry to the industry that is looking to buy unused items at lesser price to become competitive. Nothing should be disposed off into the soil, all the ferrous materials which are prone to degrade or oxidize with time should be sold as early as possible at reduced price.

b)      Using reusable materials like thermoses for coffee and water.

c)       Other option is to drive less and to use more Public transport and car pooling thereby burning less fuel and reducing carbon emission.

d)      Other option is to use less air conditioning and heating system in the house.By adding insulation to the wall and installing weather stripping around door and windows one can lower their heating cost by 25%.This helps because it reduces the amount of energy needed to heat or cool the house.

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